I’ve searched the Internet countless times to help me make a tough decision when I was unsure and needed more advice. I found myself ruminating on every possible option, thinking this would help me come to a conclusion. This strategy has not gotten me very far because it keeps me fixated on the problem without a “solution.”

After reading this article about Ruth Chang’s TED Talk, it has been made clear to me that I’ve been going about this all wrong. I had fallen into the trap of thinking one choice was automatically better than another, which led to many PROs and CONs lists. But without failure, this method has led me to taking the easy way out with the least amount of risk involved. How will I ever learn or grow that way?

I won’t. Fear and risk-taking have controlled my life for so long that it feels as if I have lost the ability to think for myself when it comes to making decisions. I got in the habit of following in others’ footsteps and doing what is expected of me. In the spirit of personal growth, I’m trying to change this about myself. I expect to encounter many tough decisions in the future, so hopefully this process will prepare me for that.

I encourage you to listen to the TED Talk or at least read the article. Even if you are not in the process of making a big decision, maybe someone you know is and you can help them.

Now I just need to focus on defining my values to help with my decision making process!